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So One Night I Started Thinking…
Masturbation has been a highly debated issue in the past and STILL IS – is masturbating good for you or not?

Is it healthy or unhealthy? Is it something to be ashamed of or proud of?

From what I’ve found, most doctors recommend masturbating on a daily basis for stress relief, relaxation, to remain sexually healthy, and to keep a healthy prostate – and the majority of us follow the doctor’s orders.

BUT over the last few years, I’ve started thinking AND noticing that MAYBE SOMETHING IS BEING MISSED OR OVERLOOKED about masturbation and its effects on us as men in general.

I’ll be honest, I discovered porn when I was 12 and struggled with a masturbation habit as a result. So if you’re struggling with it too, I know where you’re at because I’ve been there.

About 2 or 3 years ago, I all of a sudden started feeling guilty about masturbating.

Something about it just didn’t sit right with me anymore…

So I stopped to see what would happen and noticed that, overall, it made me feel much better than how I was used to feeling.

I started getting better results with the women in my life and I felt more clear, energized, and alive.

Me being a naturally curious guy, I wanted to find out exactly why this was and how it worked.

I also wanted to see if the way I was feeling was real – or just a Placebo effect.

So I did as much research as I could and started experimenting with masturbating and then not masturbating for periods of time to see if the most commonly held beliefs about masturbation are indeed true.

There’s one thing that I do agree with doctors on – it keeps your prostate “milked” and from getting all clogged up.

So if you don’t have a wife, girlfriend, or someone that you sleep with regularly, then masturbating at least once a week should keep you “cleaned out”.

Other than that, if you’re getting laid, you have no real reason to masturbate all the time other than self-pleasure.

Let’s Make Sure We’re Clear – I AM NOT A DOCTOR or physician of any kind.

But I don’t believe I’m total idiot either. I was blessed with a ton of common sense.

So after over a year of researching and experimenting, some of the hypothetical and theoretical things I’ve read and learned about this “harmless” daily habit that most of us are addicted to are nothing short of startling.

Once again, this is the stuff that I found and that I believe to be along the lines of truth. Some of my terminology and other stuff I say may not be 100% accurate, but I believe I’m on the right track with it.

What I’m about to share with you has CHANGED MY LIFE and has been a huge GAME CHANGER for me.

And just so you know, this article, and the stuff in it that you may find shocking, hasn’t even began to scratch the surface of what many others are discovering about masturbation and why you shouldn’t overdo it.

Some are even hypothesizing that this habit may possibly cause permanent damage to parts of your brain! No joke dude. Here’s a little piece of it. It was supposedly written by a Doctor.

Think about this…

Is it a coincidence that professional athletes all over the world are advised to stay away from sex and masturbation before an event or game that requires their best performance?

Is it a coincidence that men who practiced abstinence for months at a time reported feeling more alert, clear headed, and on top of their game?

I don’t know… there might be something to it.

Check out Henry Fry’s article about it: 6 Ways I Discovered A Whole New World After Abstaining From Porn And Masturbation

So What Are The Benefits of Constant Masturbation Besides It Feeling Awesome?
This Men’s Health Article says it prevents cancer, it makes you harder, it helps you last longer, it helps your immune system, and it boosts your mood.

Ok, great… BUT from my own experience, I’ve noticed almost the exact opposite.

I believe that when we masturbate, we’re taking a shortcut to get a sexual release without going through the trouble of finding a woman to help us with it! That’s always cool.

Second, we can ejaculate or cum as fast as we want to and there’s not going to be some angry disappointed woman lying next to us when we’re done! That’s cool as well.

Last, it keeps your prostate from getting all clogged up if you’re not regularly getting laid – something that I learned the hard way.

But not all doctors agree masturbation prevents prostate cancer. (More on that in #31)

That’s where I believe the benefits of masturbation come to an end…

Through my experiments and research, I discovered that it’s possible for excessive masturbation to have MANY negative side effects on our brain, body, and behavior that affect our results NOT ONLY with women and dating, but with everything else we do in our day to day life.

1. Too Much Masturbation Affects Your Brain Differently than Having Actual Sex

Having sex with a woman supposedly affects your brain in a different way than when you’re alone and masturbating.

Here’s what I’ve found out about this and how I understand it:

Oxytocin is commonly called the “love hormone” or “cuddle hormone” and plays an important part in intimacy between two people.

“Oxytocin is thought to be released during bonding – hugging, touching, and orgasm in both sexes. In the brain, oxytocin is involved in social recognition and bonding, and may be involved in the formation of trust between people and generosity.” – PsycheCentral

Oxytocin levels and intercourse and masturbation

According to this study, Oxytocin is released into your brain 4 times as much when you’re having sex than when you’re masturbating:

“Researchers once assumed that biomarkers are no different during solo sex than they are during intercourse—but this is untrue. Doctors Stuart Brody and Tillman Krüger found that orgasm during intercourse releases four times more Prolactin than masturbation. Since Oxytocin appears to trigger the release of Prolactin, it’s quite possible that Oxytocin released by intimacy accounts for the higher Prolactin levels during intercourse.”


The post-orgasmic Prolactin increase following intercourse is greater than following masturbation and suggests greater satiety.
Will Orgasms Keep You In Love?
Now Prolactin was once thought to only be found in females to trigger breast milk production and all that, but not only is it found in males, it is essential to their sexual health.

ALSO, “the hormone Prolactin makes us feel satiated by countering the effect of Dopamine, which is released during sexual arousal.”

Remember that Dopamine is really important because we are going jump into Dopamine and it’s effects in # 2.

Now what I get from this is that masturbation actually does affect your brain differently than having sex.

Brain scans have been conducted on those with porn and masturbation addictions and the reward centres of the brain are actually changed.

“Until recently, scientists believed our brains were fixed, their circuits formed and finalised in childhood, or “hardwired”. Now we know the brain is “neuroplastic”, and not only can it change, but that it works by changing its structure in response to repeated mental experience.”


brain scan of masturbation

We are even discovering that the brain seems to light up the same way in response to masturbation as it does with drugs.

Dr. Marty Klein explains:

“…when so-called sex addicts are involved in sex (for example, when watching pornography), the part of their brain that lights up (the mesolimbic pathway) is the same part that lights up when a heroin addict has injected heroin.”

They discovered that when someone is doing drugs or addicted to drugs, almost the exact same parts of their brain are being affected as someone who’s masturbating!

Let’s see what other effects too much masturbation can potentially have on us.

2. Too Much Masturbation (and Porn) Messes up the Dopamine Levels in Your Brain and Can Lead to Addiction


Dopamine is a neurotransmitter (a chemical released by nerve cells to send signals to other nerve cells) and it plays a huge role in the part of our brain that is responsible for REWARD-MOTIVATED behavior.

looking at porn masturbating

Masturbation is a form of a reward-motivated behavior because we get rewarded at the end.

Doing drugs, gambling, eating, having sex, and seeking approval are examples of other reward-motivated behaviors that cause dopamine to flood your brain.

When we do these things, Dopamine floods our brain and makes us feel REALLY GOOD.

Especially Masturbation. It’s like giving our brain a giant piece of candy!

THIS IS WHY MANY OF US BECOME ADDICTED TO MASTURBATION because just like drugs, the more the more we masturbate, the more our brain becomes “used to” and desensitized to the effects of Dopamine and the more we need or crave just to “get off” and keep that amazing feeling coming back!

Making sense?

“Dopamine is the “go get it” neurochemical essential for libido, risk-taking, motivation, focus, and anticipation and cheerfulness. In other words, a decline in dopamine signaling is associated with all of these: Diminished libido, which is a possible cause of sluggish erections, Decreased risk-taking and increased anxiety, combined with a tendency toward angry overreaction, any of which can decrease willingness to socialize, Inability to focus, which can account for concentration and memory problems, and Lack of motivation and healthy anticipation, which can lead to apathy, procrastination, and even play a role in depression. Or to state it all more positively: When dopamine and related neurochemicals are properly regulated, sexual attraction, socializing, concentration and feelings of well-being are more effortless. We suspect that a return to normal dopamine signaling helps explain why many guys report the same improvements as they unhook from excessive consumption of Internet porn.”

3. Masturbating Too Much or Excessively Kills Your Dopamine Receptors

Since addictive behavior and too much of anything OVERSTIMULATES our brain and desensitizes our brain to the effects of Dopamine, it leads to something called “downregulation” of the Dopamine Receptors.

Dopamine Receptors are the “feelers” in our brain when Dopamine is released. They “detect” the Dopamine that makes us feel really good.

Over stimulation, or masturbating too much, causes these “feelers” to be overworked and not do their job as good as they used to. They become “numb” and less sensitive and receptive to Dopamine. Also known as “Desensitization”.

That’s why I believe if we used to “get off” to seeing simple stuff like boobs bouncing up and down on porn while we masturbated, that probably no longer does the trick or satisfies us.

NOW we’re searching for stuff on the internet that is dirtier, nastier, and crazier than we’ve ever seen because we need something more intense just so our Dopamine Receptors can “detect” or “sense” Dopamine in our brain and make us feel good!

And women have even told me about straight guys that actually watch GAY PORN because it’s the only thing that gets them off!

Once we become “desensitized”, only our addictive behavior gets us off or “hits the spot”.

And it only gets worse…

When we keep masturbating and pounding these Dopamine receptors over and over to try to get them to have life and feel something, they start dying off.

Yes we end up killing them!

The more we kill, the crazier and more addictive our behavior can get!

Some guys have to masturbate 10 – 20 times a day just to feel “satisfied” because they’re SO ADDICTED.

4. Excessive Masturbating Kills Your Interest In Everyday Normal Stuff

Not only do we kill our Dopamine Receptors and have the need to masturbate like a crazy person, but we can lose interest in having sex with women.

guy bored from masturbation

Some guys are so addicted to masturbation that they no longer have interest in having sex with their girlfriend or wife.

Like this guy, this wife that is concerned about her husband, or this wife.

True story!

Believe it or not, a Playboy Bunny named Izabella St James said that Hugh Hefner would watch porn and masturbate to get off AFTER having sex with multiple “Playboy Model” girls.

He’s living every man’s dream come true – and this dude watches porn and whacks it to get off… something’s wrong in my opinion.

“In her book, Bunny Tales: Behind Closed Doors at the Playboy Mansion, Izabella St James, who was one of Hugh Hefner’s former “official girlfriends”, described sex with Hef. Hef, in his late 70s, would have sex twice a week, sometimes with four or more of his girlfriends at once, St James among them. He had novelty, variety, multiplicity and women willing to do what he pleased. At the end of the happy orgy, wrote St James, came “the grand finale: he masturbated while watching porn”.”


5. You Can Be Left Feeling “All Used Up” and Unproductive
lazy after masturbating

Have you ever had a really good day and been really energetic but then you masturbated and felt like a worthless piece of shit for the rest of the day?

Why does this happen?

Since our brain theoretically only creates so much Dopamine, if we use it all up on excessive masturbating to fulfill our brain’s craving and need for pleasure and satisfaction, it can leave us feeling “all used up” and feeling worthless.

Dr. N.K. Lin, and expert in sexual health and therapy says:

“Since dopamine is the precursor to the stress hormone epinephrine (adrenaline), excess dopamine results in the adrenal glands overproducing epinephrine and putting the body in a prolonged state of fight-or-flight stress. At the same time, norepinephrine is synthesized from dopamine and released from the adrenal medulla into the blood as a hormone, along with the stress hormone cortisol. Epinephrine, norepinephrine and cortisol fuel the fight-or-flight response, directly increasing heart rate, triggering the release of glucose from energy stores, and increasing blood flow to skeletal muscle. All of this has a severely taxing effect on the body.”

This taxing effect on our body can make us feel unmotivated, tired, depressed, and full of anxiety.

Our brain goes through a lot during periods of excessive masturbation and when it’s all over, we feel drained.

We’re left not wanting to do anything productive and many of us just want to sleep all day.

I’ve had too many days like that! I’m sure you have too.

It doesn’t make you feel like a real winner in any way whatsoever.

6. Excessive Masturbation Can Make You Feel Like A Loser

A few minutes after we ejaculate, we’re sitting there wondering why we feel like a loser for what we just did.

guy paranoid about masturbating

We’re wondering what our family, friends, co-workers, and even complete strangers would think of us if they knew we looked at porn and masturbated alot.

We’re wondering how embarrassed we would be if someone CAUGHT US in the act! (My older brother caught me when I was like 14 and I felt the deepest embarrassment I’ve ever felt in my life.)

Masturbation can make you feel like a loser because you’re watching OTHER GUYS do what you wish you were doing with the women you WISH you were doing it with!

At least that’s what I think.

BUT YOU’RE NOT THAT GUY in the pictures or video with that beautiful woman…

Instead, you’re a guy holding a phone, magazine, or sitting in front of a computer screen pumping on your penis like you’re a freakin’ monkey who doesn’t know any better.

Don’t be this guy…


Does that make you feel awesome? It shouldn’t.

7. Chronic Masturbation and Porn Viewing Can Be Seen As Perverted and Twisted girl disgusted watching you masturbate

This is how I personally think…

Theoretically – when you watch porn, you’re watching two or more people THAT YOU DON’T KNOW in an intimate and private moment. Think about IF YOU DID know them… would that be weird or creepy?

Would it be weird if you were a creepy stalker sitting outside a strange couple’s window watching them have sex?

Seriously, when it comes down to it, is there much of a difference other than you’re actually not sitting outside of someone’s window?

girl disgusted watching you masturbate2

You’re watching an act that most humans consider extremely private, and pleasuring yourself to it happening.

I know this doesn’t cross your mind when masturbating and viewing porn, but that’s maybe because you’ve never thought about it before.

But you may see it differently than I do and I’m not gonna knock you for it.

Would you feel weird if some guy was watching you have sex with a girl and he had his pants down, grunting, moaning, was and jerking his dick off while he watched?

I bet you’d get pissed and feel disgusted by it!

YES you can argue that people willingly do it on camera knowing that other people are going to watch it and masturbate to it. But why be that creepy guy watching another dude bang a chick?


8. Excessive Masturbation Can Create Strong Feelings of Guilt or Shame

On a primal level, 99.9% of us KNOW that masturbation is something we wouldn’t do in front of other people for fear of them thinking we’re a loser, or a weird pervert.

guy feeling guilty about masturbating

For those of us who are out of control with our masturbation habit, it’s always in the back of our mind everywhere we go. We wonder if others know, if they’ve caught on to us, if our family or even our kids have an idea that we do it so often.

It’s like being locked in a jail cell of guilt and paranoia that follows us around.

Carrying this around in the back of your mind just creates unnecessary stress that you don’t need. You have enough shit to worry about in your day to day life besides being unable to control your masturbation habit.

Here’s what one guy had to say about it.

“I’m not sure how to say this so I’ll just say it. I masturbate at least twice a day. Whenever I finish, I feel a profound sense of shame about it and I feel terrible for like an hour. Sometimes the shame even ruins my day. Everything I’ve read says masturbation is normal for guys, yet I can’t get past these feelings of shame and self-hatred. I feel like I should be able to exercise more willpower and stop myself when I feel the urge, but the truth is I like it and I don’t want to stop. And I’m not hurting anybody (except myself, I guess), so why should I? Do I have a problem? Why do I feel so bad about doing something that is supposedly normal? I’m not in a relationship, if that matters at all.”


9. Out of Control Masturbating Can Kill Your Interest In Being Social

If we lose interest in being social and making friends, I believe it’s a BIG PROBLEM.

When we meet, attract, and date women, or simply interact with people we really like, our brain releases Dopamine and we feel a sense of pleasure and reward from it.

If we unintentionally desensitize our brain and Dopamine Receptors to the effects of Dopamine by masturbating too much, then we might find being social, making friends, having conversations, and meeting women to be boring, uninteresting, unrewarding, and we’ll just end up staying at home all day… masturbating.

Before we know it, we let the opportunity to have a great dating life pass us by because we simply couldn’t control ourselves or our habits.

From personal experience, when I stopped masturbating, I turned into Mr. Social. I would make an attempt to talk to every beautiful woman I saw, make them laugh, get their numbers, go out on dates, etc. I would see her, and the next thing I know my mouth is moving, she’s smiling, interacting with me, and I’m thinking, “Wow, this is kind of awesome! I didn’t even think about approaching and talking to her. I just did it. Where did that come from?”

When I had periods of chronic masturbation, THIS NEVER HAPPENED FOR ME. I’d see a beautiful woman and either get scared or simply have no interest at the moment in talking to her.

10. You Experience Less Satisfaction from the Small Things in Life excited about not masturbating

Believe it or not, your brain releases dopamine throughout your entire day.

Riding a roller coaster, skydiving, going out and having fun, playing sports, or doing anything enjoyable causes your brain to release Dopamine so you can enjoy those activities.

They make you feel good.

If your Dopamine receptors are weakened or dead and can’t detect normal levels of Dopamine, you’re not going to find as much fulfillment in doing ordinary things that make people happy.

You’ll just find them dull, boring, unrewarding, and be left wondering when you can masturbate again.

This is what I’ve noticed from personal experience.



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